Someone once told me that it is wrong for Christians to “agree to disagree” on doctrine of any kind – that God’s Word should be perfectly clear to His children on everything because the Spirit of God is leading us and will bring all of us to the same conclusions.
But I know that we’re going to disagree, though never on the Gospel. Certainly, we shouldn’t go looking for a fight – I’ve been guilty of this – and shouldn’t avoid Christians who disagree with us unless we’ve seen that there can be no peace yet. Sometimes we will be able to talk about our differences – though disagreeing is almost always unpleasant because we want to be like-minded. And sometimes we should avoid certain topics, period. I used to think those topics necessarily included 1) the events of the End of the Age and 2) the doctrine of election. But we can discuss these if we remember that we’re brothers and sisters and Jesus comes first for all of us.
This proverb is powerful as a warning but it falls short. For the message of the Gospel is that there is forgiveness because of Jesus Christ both with God and between His children.
“An unkind remark is like a killing frost—
no matter how much it warms up, the damage is already done.”
Amish Proverbs, Suzanne Woods Fisher, Revell, 2012, p. 67
21 Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus *said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.