We won’t always agree, an Amish proverb, and the Lord’s instruction

Someone once told me that it is wrong for Christians to “agree to disagree” on doctrine of any kind – that God’s Word should be perfectly clear to His children on everything because the Spirit of God is leading us and will bring all of us to the same conclusions.

But I know that we’re going to disagree, though never on the Gospel. Certainly, we shouldn’t go looking for a fight – I’ve been guilty of this – and shouldn’t avoid Christians who disagree with us unless we’ve seen that there can be no peace yet. Sometimes we will be able to talk about our differences – though disagreeing is almost always unpleasant because we want to be like-minded. And sometimes we should avoid certain topics, period. I used to think those topics necessarily included 1) the events of the End of the Age and 2) the doctrine of election. But we can discuss these if we remember that we’re brothers and sisters and Jesus comes first for all of us.

This proverb is powerful as a warning but it falls short. For the message of the Gospel is that there is forgiveness because of Jesus Christ both with God and between His children. 


“An unkind remark is like a killing frost—

no matter how much it warms up, the damage is already done.”

Amish Proverbs, Suzanne Woods Fisher, Revell, 2012, p. 67

Matthew 18:21-22

21 Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus *said to him, I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.


46 thoughts on “We won’t always agree, an Amish proverb, and the Lord’s instruction

  1. Truth! When I entered the blogging community I felt challenged by different perspectives I have not heard of before and ones people are very strongly for. But sometimes instead of a simple discussion sharing an opposite view or just I have not had God lead me to that view and change yet (cause sometimes He has us give things to Him gradually), I met EXTREME opposition to that, and it was confusing to me. I think discussion even when we have different opinions can lead us to greater truths. We can see how God led a person to those thoughts and feelings. And there is always the possiblity to inspire one another 🙂

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  2. Hi Maria, I agree with your conclusions. As Christians we are not always going to agree. This is were “brotherly love” comes into it. Pre trib, mid trib, and the other trib have always caused divisions. I don’t like to divide, I think we can all learn from each other even if our way of seeing things is different. The doctrine of election, as in God chooses those for Heaven and bypasses the others and sends them to hell, is my biggest stumbling block to be honest. Of course there are the non negotiables of our faith and the doctrine of salvation. Any disagreement here will cause one to be a heretic and not a born again believer.
    Hope I am making sense 😊

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    • Crissy, you are making sense. Yes, we can all learn from each other about nonessentials especially about how to love. Disagreement is scary but the Lord is with us. He steadies us. We need understanding and wisdom.

      About election, I believe that God and His good pleasure should be exalted and the human will belittled. As you you know He is completely good. Yes, it is difficult.

      Lord bless you!!

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  3. Excellent post. I see so many varying views within a single church. Then you meet friends from other denominations that have their favorite ideas, doctrines, ceremonies, etc. It is not worth ‘fighting’ over such things, as long as we all believe in Jesus and trust in Him. Once we get those varying views in a single room, if we are showing God’s love, everyone will gravitate to the common ground. Thank you for this post.

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  4. Good post, Maria! We can never compromise on the Gospel of grace, but on the secondaries we can all agree that, “For now we see in a mirror, dimly.” People bemoan the denominational fragmentation and “disunity” over the secondaries, but I believe it serves a good purpose; we would be in trouble if we were under a central authority dictating what is dogma as in the days of old. My experience here at WordPress has been a blessing to me in several ways including getting to know a number of Christians who don’t share all of my beliefs regarding the secondaries although we are united in Jesus Christ and the Gospel.

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